as follow-up to my previous post - it's amazing how good it feels to vent and even better to hear that others can feel the same way. thank you to all who commented - it was great to hear from you.
as for today's post - i was going to fulfill grandma's wish and post pictures, but unfortunately our computer gave up the ghost over the weekend. i haven't had time to transfer pictures over to the new computer yet - so grandma's post will have to wait a few more days.
in the meantime i thought i'd share a conversation i had with noah the other night... or more appropriately - he had with me.
a few nights ago aaron and i got into an "energized" conversation. we usually try to keep these kinds of conversations for when the kids are in bed, but there are a few occasions when we don't quite hit that goal. this night we were getting ready to run some errands. i got snippy and said a few things. aaron said a few things. not able to let it go - even with noah standing next to us - i said a few more things and then aaron crossed the line. (maybe in my emotional state, my line was a little too easily crossed, but none the less - crossed is crossed.) so in my mature nature i informed him he would not be coming with us and i grabbed the kids and headed to the car.
about 3 minutes later this conversation ensues:
noah: uh hum. mom.
me: what noah.
noah: i really don't think you should yell at dad. that's not what Jesus would do.
me: (completely not in the mood to have my 6-year-old point out things i already know) i know, i shouldn't have yelled. (just to press my immaturity level) but he yelled at me first.
noah: (sighs, as though he's talking to a 4-year-old) mom. just because someone yells at you doesn't mean you should yell at them. if someone says something that makes you upset you should just tell him that what he said made you feel sad and to please not talk that way. yelling will never solve your problems.
me: (trying not to laugh as noah is almost verbatim telling me what i've told him so many times) you're right noah. i shouldn't have gotten angry. (and to keep up with this odd role reversal) but, what about dad? he shouldn't have gotten mad either.
noah: no, he shouldn't have and i'll talk to him when we get home. you just need to remember that it's never good to fight with people. it will never make you feel happy inside. i want you to think about this and how you could have handled things better.
not trusting myself to talk without laughing, it's now quiet for a few minutes until...
noah: mom?
me: yes, noah.
noah: i have a really good feeling inside from helping you. i think the Holy Ghost is telling me i did a good job in helping you and dad tonight. *sigh*.
honestly - where did this child come from? too funny. And, true to form, as soon as we got home - noah went and found aaron for his 'talk'. aaron came out a few minutes later shaking his head trying not to laugh.
i may have moments where being a mom feels overwhelming, but i wouldn't trade times like this for anything.
9 comments:
You don't know me: my name is Darci Taylor, I'm Corntey Pierce's sister from Washington. She told me a long time ago to check out your blog because you are so funny! Well, I agree wholeheartedly! LOVE the way you write about all of life's little experiences. I love the conversation between you and your son, priceless! Moments like those do make motherhood worthwhile! Feel free to take a peek at my blog, alls fair, I peeked first!;) I'd better get back to my hungry 6 month old and telling my 3 year old son to not stand so close to the TV as he watches The Simpsons. EEEEYEAH, about that...oh well! I pick my battles.
My sister & I are real close, just because I mispelled her name doesn't mean a thing...CORTNEY, see, I can do it.
So cute! I love how kids make us better, just by having them. -When Ella corrects me like this, I always think, well, I must be doing something right if she's learning how she should really act.
Miss you!!
That is such a cute conversation you had with Noah, one you'll remember forever. It's amazing how children are our greatest teachers. And doesn't it make you happy to know that the things you've told him have stuck with him? :)
You're a great mom Brenda!
Jacob and I laughed out loud reading this post!! Noah is just so unique I don't have words to describe him. I hope you're writing these things down so you can always have them to look back on. :)
That's awesome. It's why we have kids--to help us remember to do the things we tell them to do all the time. I frequently find myself doing things like yelling, "Stop yelling!"
So I'm reading your comments to see who else is posting on my best friend's blog because I always like to read the comments and then I realized that wait a sec....I had not commented! What kind of best friend am I???? So here's my comment: You've done this to him. You have created a bright observant logical smart young person and one day he'll go into politics.....and he'll probably be a democrat.
Oh, he'll be a democrat for sure. He'll follow the influences of the Political Piper and all will be well. The country will be in good hands.
That's hysterical. So he's designated himself family counselor uh? Too funny.
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